Dealing with Family Dissension
Romans 12:18: If it be possible, as
much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
The family is a very important
creation of God. It has therefore being the wish of most families to live in love,
peace and togetherness and avoiding all occasions of wrath and discord. But sometimes, there are occurrences of
bitter dissensions between father and mother, husband and wife, parents and
children and amongst children and amongst church members as a family. These
dissensions tend to rob the family of the quality of happiness of the family.
What are the causes of these dissensions, what are the
effects and how do we deal with these dissensions as Christians to restore a
once happy family.
The causes
Family dissensions are caused mainly
by:
·
Envies.
eg. Cain & Abel (Gen. 4)
·
Greed
& Selfishness. eg. in sharing family properties, you think you deserve all
and no one else
·
Communication
failures. Especially between husband and wife- one is not able to talk about
burning issues.
·
Spiting
one another i.e. looking down on someone.
Effects of dissensions
·
Bitterness,
leading to, sometimes, murder. Eg. Ammon & Absalom; Jacob & Esau; Hagar
& Ishmael
·
Death of a family
member or infliction of a kind through curses.
·
Factionalism
within the family.(matt. 12:25) leading
to lack of growth and progress in the family.
·
Lack of love
amongst family members.
·
Lack of true
fellowship, especially in the church.
·
Inability to pray
together or confer. (especially amongst couples)
·
It exposes the
family to Satan’s malice.
·
Wayward children
Resolving dissensions
·
Keep
up the love (1 corin 13). Patience, as a key ingredient of love, suppresses
wrath. Eg. God and Adam.
·
Mortify
pride and passion, which creates impatience.
·
Be
silent when the other is angry. Restrain the tongue. Be slow to speak but quick
to hear
·
Confess
your fault and ask for forgiveness, if you are the cause. Tell your brother his
fault and not do keep it (Matt.18:15-20)
·
Don’t
take personal interest in resolving the dissension issue. Listen to both
parties and show no partiality.
·
Ask
God for wisdom to deal with such situations.
·
Be
approachable and encourage people to communicate. eg. Husband and leader.
Conclusion
Gen. 37 tells the story of Joseph who was sold by his brothers
to a foreign land. Although he was hurt, he forgave his family and restored
peace in his family and thus fulfilling Romans 12:18.
May the good Lord intervene in
families, groups, people and nations where dissention is causing us to be at
each other’s throat. May the peace of God prevail in all broken families. Amen!
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